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VICEFT


Vancouver Island Centre for Emotionally Focused Therapy

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VICEFT


Vancouver Island Centre for Emotionally Focused Therapy

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WELCOME TO THE VANCOUVER ISLAND CENTRE FOR EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED THERAPY

  • Do you still love your partner but can’t remember how to communicate without having the same arguments again and again?

  • Does it feel as though the bond between you and your partner has faded?

  • Do you find that you avoid opening up to your partner because you just don’t feel that he/she hears what you have to say?

  • Do you feel alone in your relationship or that your partner doesn’t care about you the way he/she used to?

If you answer yes to any of these questions, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples can help you and your partner change negative patterns for good.  Relationships often start with an intense connection but over time the spark that initially attracted you to each other can fade or disappear and often you feel the connection to your partner goes with it.  EFT offers a way for couples of all ages to learn how to communicate in ways that bring you closer together by helping you understand negative patterns of communicating, allowing each of you to express thoughts and fears in safe and respectful ways and, finally, helping couples to feel more bonded and close again, or perhaps closer than ever before.

People in happy relationships also tend to enjoy better overall physical health and well-being.  Research shows that marital satisfaction has been linked to better immune system functioning, recovery from illness and injury, and helps with the management of stressful situations.

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An Introduction to eft


An Introduction to eft


The three stages:

1. Recognize Negative Patterns

In the first stage, the focus is on helping couples to better understand the negative patterns of interacting and communicating that they repeatedly get stuck in. In stage one, key goals include helping couples to:

  • Better understand negative patterns of communication
  • Better understand what underlying feelings feed into conflict
  • Experience less conflict
  • Experience “more space” to begin to talk more deeply about important topics in the relationship

2. Create New Patterns

In the second stage, the focus is on creating new, more effective, and more emotionally satisfying ways of interacting and communicating together. Key goals include:

  • Helping each partner to see the other in a different, more understanding light
  • Helping each partner to feel more safe and secure in talking about very important things
  • Helping couples to feel more bonded and close again, or even closer than they ever have been
  • Helping couples to feel that sense of specialness and being valued again

3. Clarity and Preparedness

In the third stage, the focus is on building upon the gains that have already been made, and applying them directly to more specific issues within the relationship. Key goals include:

  • Having a clear sense of the old, negative pattern of interaction and communication.
  • Having a clear sense of the new, positive ways of interacting
  • Confidence about having the skills and strategies to help maintain these positive interactions together
  • Feeling prepared to end therapy with a hopeful outlook for the future
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Suggested Reading


Suggested Reading


Attachment Theory in Practice: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Individuals, Couples, and Families

Drawing on cutting-edge research on adult attachment--and providing an innovative roadmap for clinical practice--Susan M. Johnson argues that psychotherapy is most effective when it focuses on the healing power of emotional connection. The primary developer of emotionally focused therapy (EFT) for couples, Johnson now extends her attachment-based approach to individuals and families. The volume shows how EFT aligns perfectly with attachment theory as it provides proven techniques for treating anxiety, depression, and relationship problems. Each modality (individual, couple, and family therapy) is covered in paired chapters that respectively introduce key concepts and present an in-depth case example. Special features include instructive end-of-chapter exercises and reflection questions.

A lucid treatise on psychotherapy that will prove useful to students as well as experienced practitioners. Drawing deftly from the wisdom of such pioneers as John Bowlby, Carl Rogers, and Harry Stack Sullivan—and from significant empirical research in emotional and interpersonal phenomena—Johnson has written an outstanding work that will have an impact on our field for a great many years.
— Irvin Yalom, MD, Professor Emeritus of Psychiatry, Stanford University

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love 

Heralded by the New York Times and Time magazine as the couple therapy with the highest rate of success, Emotionally Focused Therapy works because it views the love relationship as an attachment bond. This idea, once controversial, is now supported by science, and has become widely popular among therapists around the world. 

In Hold me Tight, Dr. Sue Johnson presents Emotionally Focused Therapy to the general public for the first time. Johnson teaches that the way to save and enrich a relationship is to reestablish safe emotional connection and preserve the attachment bond. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in a relationship-from Recognizing the Demon Dialogue to Revisiting a Rocky Moment-and uses them as touchpoints for seven healing conversations. Through case studies from her practice, illuminating advice, and practical exercises, couples will learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.

Wonderful!...Hold Me Tight blends the best in research findings with practical suggestions from a caring and compassionate clinician. This fabulous book will be of great benefit...to couples trying to find their way to better communication and deeper, more fulfilling ways of being with each other. Bravo!
— Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. author of Parenting from the Inside Out
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Our Therapists


Our Therapists


Dr. T. Leanne Campbell

Registered Psychologist
Co-Director - VICEFT
ICEEFT Certified EFT Therapist, Supervisor & Trainer 

 

Dr. David R. Fairweather

Registered Psychologist
Co-Director - VICEFT
ICEEFT Certified EFT Therapist, Supervisor & Trainer

Dr. Patrick Poyner-Del Vento
Registered Psychologist

Dr. Georgina Maltby
Registered Psychologist

Faith Leather
Registered Clinical Counsellor